Monday, December 17, 2012

The Search For Happiness

Wish You a Very Good Day ...  
THOUGHT OF THE DAY:  The Search For Happiness

Throughout history, human beings have desired and searched for two things, happiness and a perfect relationship.  

There is an old truth, "You cannot search for what, you have not already had or known." In other words, our search is motivated by a deep subconscious memory of the original, perfect and eternal relationship.  It is only when our relationship with god being is restored that we can experience true happiness or bliss.   Bliss is the deepest spiritual happiness we can experience.  It is experienced only when we are free of all attachment, when we no longer mis identify with anything physical and when our inner mental state is not dependent on anything or anyone.

At its highest level, our relationship with God is pure and non-dependent, and therefore blissful.   Deep within the soul, there is a memory of the bliss of this perfect union and it is the deepest motivation in our search for the perfect relationship, for the perfect happiness.   However, instead of seeking at the level of spirit, we seek at the level of mind (personality) and body.   We search in those around us for the perfect partner - our soul mate. It is not incorrect to have worldly relationships, but there needs to be a deep realization inside each one of us that our true soul mate, is the One with whom we can have an ever-lasting, eternal relationship, the One with whom we have the deepest eternal bond (over a period of many births), the One from whom we will experience everlasting, eternal, unconditional attainments.

We are all human beings, and nobody is perfect in this universe. Not necessary that our life partner will be as per our wish / rules & regulations! Compromise and adjustments only can maintain a long lasting & good relationship. Kindly, therefore, do not search for perfection in your soul-mate to lead a Happy Life! 

Monday, September 17, 2012

તમારી પર્સનાલિટી તમારી ઓળખ છે!

Sep 02, 2012

કેવી રીતે વાત કરવીકેવી રીતે બોલવુંકેવી રીતના હાવભાવ હોવા જોઈએ. એ બધી જ બાબતોનું ધ્યાન રાખવું જરૂરી છે. આપણી નમ્રતાથી આપણા વ્યક્તિત્વની સારી કે ખરાબ છબિ ઊભી થાય છે.
આપણે જ્યારે કોઈ બિઝનેસ સંસ્થા અથવા કોઈ કોર્પોરેટ જગ્યાએ મિટિંગ માટે જતાં હોઈએ છીએ ત્યારે આપણે કેવી રીતે વાત કરીએ છીએ એ મહત્વનું છે. એ સિવાય તમારા વ્યક્ત્વિનો પ્રભાવ પણ અગત્યની ભૂમિકા ભજવે છે. કેવી રીતે વાત કરવી, કેવી રીતે બોલવું, કેવી રીતના હાવભાવ હોવા જોઈએ બધી જ બાબતોનું ધ્યાન રાખવું જરૂરી છે. આપણા હાવભાવ અને અવાજની નમ્રતાથી આપણા વ્યક્તિત્વની સારી કે ખરાબ છબિ ઊભી થાય છે, તો જાણીએ કેવા હોવા જોઈએ આપણા હાવભાવ અને વ્યવહાર...
હેર સ્ટાઇલ
તમારા વ્યક્તિત્વમાં તમારી હેર સ્ટાઇલ અગત્યની ભૂમિકા ભજવે છે. તમારી હેર સ્ટાઇલ કેવી હોવી જોઈએ તેની સમજ હોવી જરૂરી છે. તેમજ તમે જ્યાં જાવ છો એ જગ્યા અનુસાર તમારી હેર સ્ટાઇલ કરો. કોઈ સોશિયલ મીટિંગ માટે જાવ અને તમારી હેર સ્ટાઇલ વધુ પડતી ટ્રેન્ડી હશે તો એ તમારી ખરાબ છબિ ઊભી કરશે. માટે સમય અનુસાર હેર સ્ટાઇલ કરવી જોઈએ. ફંકી હેર સ્ટાઇલ એ ઓફિસમાં સારી બાબત નથી.
વોકિંગ સ્ટાઇલ
તમારી વોકિંગ સ્ટાઇલ સીધી અને સિમ્પલ હોવી જોઈએ. વોકિંગ સ્ટાઇલમાં ક્યારેય લટકામટકા ન હોવા જોઈએ. વોકિંગ સ્ટાઇલને ક્યારેય સ્ટાઇલિસ્ટ બનાવવાની કોશિશ ન કરો. તેમજ જ્યારે તમે વોક કરતા હોવ તો તમારાં જૂતાં કે ચંપલનો અવાજ ન થાય તેનું ધ્યાન રાખવું જોઈએ. તમારાં જૂતાં કે ચંપલ તમારી વોકિંગ સ્ટાઇલમાં બહુ અગત્યની ભૂમિકા ભજવે છે, માટે તેની પસંદગી કરતી વખતે તમને કમ્ફર્ટેબલ લાગે તેની જ પસંદગી કરવી જોઈએ. ઓફિસમાં હંમેશા શૂઝ (બુટ) પહેરવાનો આગ્રહ રાખો.
 ડ્રેસિંગ સ્ટાઇલ
તમારાં વસ્ત્રો તમારા વ્યક્તિત્વનો અરીસો છે. તમારી ડ્રેસિંગ સ્ટાઇલથી લોકો તમને અને તમારા વ્યક્તિત્વને ઓળખી લેતા હોય છે, માટે કપડાં એવાં હોવાં જોઈએ જે તમને અને તમારા વ્યક્તિત્વને સાચી રીતે રજૂ કરે. ક્યારેય પણ એવાં કપડાંની પસંદગી ન કરવી જે તમારા વ્યક્તિત્વને અનુરૂપ ન હોય. તમે જ્યારે કપડાંની પસંદગી કરતા હોવ ત્યારે ઓફિસ અને કોર્પોરેટ વર્લ્ડને ધ્યાનમાં રાખવું જોઇએ. વધારે પડતા ભપકા કલરના કપડા ઓફિસમાં પહેરવા યોગ્ય નથી.
જ્યારે તમે કોઈ પણ પ્રકારની એસેસરીઝની ખરીદી કરવા જાવ છો ત્યારે મનમાં એ નક્કી કરી લો કે તમે શેના માટે ખરીદી કરી રહ્યા છો. ઓફિસને અનુરૂપ ખરીદી કરતી વખતે તમારે એ ધ્યાન રાખવું જોઇએ કે તે વધુ પડતું ફેશનેબલ તો નથી ને. મોબાઇલ, બેગ, સનગ્લાસિસ, શૂઝ, વોચ અને જ્વેલરી આ તમામ વસ્તુઓ તમારા વ્યક્તિત્વનો ભાગ છે, જે લોકો સમક્ષ તમારી સારી અથવા ખરાબ છબિ દર્શાવે છે.

Saturday, September 8, 2012

Increase Happiness: Can Happiness be Trained like a Muscle?

increase happiness Increase Happiness: Can Happiness be Trained like a Muscle?
What if instead of working out in the gym we dedicated 10-15 minutes a day to increase our happiness? Would it not be great to train your mind and notice yourself becoming more positive, more satisfied with your life and eventually more successful?
It actually works in this exact order. Only now have the bright minds of positive psychology likeShawn Achor started to burst the bubble of “I need to work harder to be more successful, so that I can become happier.”
Many of us still live by this formula waiting for happiness to come. “I need to work harder on my relationships, to become a better parent, a better spouse, a better friend and, eventually, everyone will love and appreciate me”, “I need to work harder to get promoted and then I will be happy with my career”, “I need to work harder to make more money and then I will be able to retire, buy a beautiful beach home and live the life of my dreams”.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that we should not work harder. I am saying that we should change the formula to
I need to work harder to increase my happiness right now”.
Because while we continue to think that our happiness depends on our achievements, we are doomed. Capital ‘D’.
Every time we achieve one goal, our brain simply raises the bar higher and re-frames our expectations. So this state of absolute bliss, unexplainable joy and overpowering positivity never lasts long enough for us to consider our life truly “happy”.
Psychologists, however, noticed that being happier actually makes us more successful. When we enter a positive state of mind our productivity and creativity automatically get a boost, we are more fun to be around, we learn faster and perform better.
Another thing they proved is that by doing a number of “exercises” for only 21 days, we can actually become happier and even create long-lasting positive changes in our lives.

5 Exercises That Increase Happiness and Positivity

When I first found out about Positive Psychology, I realized that I have been intuitively doing many of these exercises for years now. Maybe you are already doing some of them too.
But in any case, I suggest that you check the list and add some of these happiness exercises to your daily routine, because they really work
3 Gratitudes.
Make it a habit to write down 3 NEW things that you are grateful for very day. In the beginning it may be a little challenging, but practicing this exercise will help your mind to scan every situation for the positive information first and not dwell on the negative.
I started doing this a long time ago and I would say that it took me longer than 21 days to fully re-wire my thinking pattern, but it was well worth the effort. One interesting change I’ve noticed is that I’ve become less sensitive to negativity and critique. I no longer take it personally.
Write down every positive emotion, everyday achievements or kindness that people have demonstrated to you. This is a great way to re-live positive experiences and keep your mind focused on your blessings. I personally don’t do it, but I do write for the blog. So I guess, it counts.
Who would imagine that by exercising our body we can actually raise our happiness level? But regular workouts do affect our sense of happiness on several levels.
On the physical level it triggers the release of the feel-good hormone – dopamine. On the energy level regular exercise helps to combat fatigue and apathy. And on the mental level exercise teaches our brain that our behavior matters. By pushing your body a little further, you are actually boosting your self-confidence, sense of achievement.
There are many benefits of meditation and an increased sense of happiness is one of them. Meditation helps to calm anxiety, stop the flow of negative thinking and learn the one skill indispensable for staying happy – being able to stay focused on the present moment and savor it.
Random acts of kindness.
Acts of kindness not only create ripples of positivity, they also contribute to our own happiness. You have probably noticed how giving a gift is often a lot more satisfying than receiving it or how making a person laugh feels better than just reading the joke.
Neurologists have noticed that when we engage in activities that help others, our brain releases endorphins, which induce a feeling of well-being. It has also been suggested that the regular release of endorphins is linked to increased longevity.
It seems that doing random acts of kindness not only helps us to stay happier, but to live longer… so that we could help even more people. Makes sense, doesn’t it?

Thursday, September 6, 2012


You are what you eat -and what you don't eat. Similarly, life depends on what you keep and what you don't keep. There are many things in life that people may keep, but only a few are truly worth keeping. Here is a list of what to keep (and how) for a brighter, happier and more  fulfilling life.

Keep calm. Life can be unnerving and if you don't make an effort to keep collected and focused, you could easily lose your cool. Take regular, conscious deep breaths to calm and center yourself.

Keep your chin up. Not only is it good for your posture and diminishes your double chin, it also helps you maintain an "I can handle it" attitude. By keeping your chin up, you can keep your head above water.

Keep your spirits high. Always maintain a positive and joyful attitude. Remember that no one can perk you up like yourself. Keep your spirits high when the going gets rough by focusing on your dreams and counting your blessings.

Keep your word. The true measure of a man is if he keeps his word. Honorable and trustworthy is the man who stands by what he says and promises. It is important to think well before speaking because once a word is uttered and released into the universe, its vibrations could no longer be erased.

Keep in time with your inner drummer. Don't be swayed by others into following the confusing beat of their drums. Although it is sometimes necessary to adjust to the pace of others, it is best to keep in step with your personal rhythm and to dance to your own music.

Keep in touch with the child in youThe source of creativity in your life is that little child within you. He questions, he marvels, he imagines and invents. Stay in touch with him, and be young and creative for life!

Keep abreast of the times. The world is moving so fast. Know what's happening, what's in style, what's au courant, what's relevant, what's important. Learn the hottest trends and the latest in technology. Don't be caught in a time warp or you'll be left behind.

Keep in shape. Your shape shows your state of health. Your body is the vessel that you journey through life in. Keep it healthy and strong. Don't be one of those people who say, "I'm in shape; round is a shape!"

Keep your mouth shut. People talk too much. We language ourselves to our own destruction and defeat. Know when to talk and when to shut up. Avoid being too verbose. Oftentimes, silence speaks more eloquently than words.

Keep good friends. Good friends are hard to find. Nurture friendships that make your plight through life easier, more wonderful and meaningful. Truly poor is the man who has no good friends.

Keep great memories, not heavy objects. In the very end, good memories of life are what we will be left with, not jewels and riches that we can't bring when we finally go. Live each moment beautifully. Linked together, these magical moments create a magnificent life.

Keep a diary. Writing a journal is therapeutic. Record the important events in your life, your dreams and aspirations, even your failures and disappointments. When you trace back events in your life, you are bound to learn lessons from them as well as find great inspiration and strength.

Keep saying grace and thanks. Blessed is he who says grace before he eats and gives thanks for all  the gifts he receives daily. Maintain a thankful attitude and focus on your blessings instead of disappointments.

Keep on moving forward. The universe moves forward in time. Don't get stuck in yesterday; make an effort to move ahead to a better life. Drop those unnecessary pieces of material and emotional baggage that weigh you down and keep you from flying to your loftiest dreams.

Keep out of danger. He who exposes himself to danger finds it. Don't court danger; avoid it. As they say, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Look out for number one (that's you!), and always stay safe and sound.

Keep up the good work. Success is built upon success. The more you do, the more you achieve; the more you achieve, the better you get at doing it. Make success a habit by keeping up the good work.

Keep young. Do everything in your power to stay strong, supple and youthful. Think young; feel young. A wise man once said "It is never too late to be what you might have been." Remember that age is a number and that youth is an attitude.

 Keep on dancing. Life is a dance through space and time. Embellish whatever music life plays for you with your own fresh orchestration and creative choreography. Be excited in your heart and keep your feet light with happiness.

Keep on loving. Love is the reason we were created. Love diminishes when hoarded but multiplies when shared. Give it and feel it overflow in your heart. Love cures all sadness, pain and sorrow. Lonely is he who does not give love away and therefore gets none in return.

Keep on dreaming. Most men, even if they are young, are dead - that is, if they can no longer dream. Our dreams are what keep us young and alive; they give us that sparkle in our eyes. Our dreams keep us going even while everything around us says, "Stop."

Keep on hoping. Never lose hope. Tomorrow will be another day that will bring new hope and greater blessings. Keep faith in the abundance of the universe and the mystery and perfection of life. Hope for nothing but the best and that's what you will be granted.

Keep on believing. Belief is the mother of reality. What you believe becomes your truth. Believe in yourself, believe in the magic of the universe, believe in the power of your dreams. And most of all, believe you can do it, so you can have all your heart's desires!

These You Must Not Keep
Don't keep up with the Joneses. Just because your neighbor bought a red Ferrari, you, too, must get  one. Don't join the bandwagon and keep away from the "herd mentality." Too much unhappiness in this world is caused by comparisons - comparing yourself and trying to measure up to other people. There is really no need to live up to others' expectations if it would just bring you  inconvenience and misery.

Don't keep issues and grudges. The reason most of us stay miserable is because we keep issues, grudges, and problems. Detox yourself of complaints and issues that keep you from being the best that you could be. Try to solve all problems that beset you; never leave anything unresolved. The questions and puzzles of life are what make it challenging and exciting.

Don't keep resentments and memories of painful experiences. Life is not a bed of roses so you must learn to let go of negative feelings and memories of painful experiences. It's hard to go on living  with a heavy heart. Pardon, forgive, forget if you can, and move on.

Monday, September 3, 2012

10 Ways to Communicate Better at Work

Communication is arguably one of the most important business skills, no matter what your industry. Yet so many of us haven't been trained in how to communicate with co-workers and clients. Here are some tips to help you become a better communicator:

1. Listen.
Most of us are terrible listeners. Instead of truly listening to what the person is saying, we interrupt, prepare our response, or think we already know what the speaker is going to say next. It's impossible to understand what someone needs or wants if we don't give them our undivided attention.

2. Pay attention to body language.
Body language can tell you just as much as what a person says, if not more. Observe how they act when they talk. Is your co-worker saying she can meet a deadline, but wringing her hands while she says it? She might be afraid to tell you it will be hard to make the due date

3. Consider communication preference.
Not everyone likes to communicate the same way. Email works for some, but others would rather pick up the phone and talk, text, or even use social media or instant messaging to relay something. Respect the person you're trying to contact and use the method she seems to prefer. If you've called a client several times and always get her voicemail, but she's always quick to respond to email, switch to email instead

4. Consider your tone.
The problem with email and social media is that it can be difficult to determine the tone. You may mean something as a joke, but if it comes  off pushy or angry, you could cause an unintended reaction from the recipient. Make sure your language is clear, and if you are angry, take a  few minutes to cool down before you type. Better yet, meet in person so nothing is misconstrued.

5. Don't be too casual.
Getting along with your work colleagues can help you do your job better, but don't take it too far in your communication on the job. Keep the cursing for after hours, and make sure your emails, meetings, and phone calls are professional. Being too casual on the job may make others feel uncomfortable

6. Check your grammar
Spell check is your best friend on the job. Always proofread anything you type--be it an email, Tweet, or letter. If you're not great at catching  errors, ask someone else to proof it for you.

7. Keep criticism constructive.
If you manage others, you want them to do their best. Work to ensure your comments aren't emotionally charged, and that the person you're speaking with grasps what you're trying to say when giving feedback. Provide positive reinforcement when a job is well-done, and find ways to add in tips for improvement without being "that boss."
8. Restate what you hear.
Rephrasing what your co-worker or boss says to you by repeating the important points shows you are listening and understand what you were told. It gives both parties a chance to clarify if there is any confusion, and by repeating it, you'll remember

9. Get a little personal.
People let their guards down when you talk about their lives outside of work. Ask about a co-worker's kid's soccer tournament. Find ways to interact on a personal level without going too far. You'll go a long way toward building trust

10. Never stop improving.

Effective communication is a skill you must practice. Observe how others respond to your communication to clue you in on areas for improvement.
  CNN: How to Communicate Better at Work

Life Coach Valorie Burton, author of Where Will You Go from Here? talks about how to communicate effectively in the busy workplace

How to Develop Analytical Skills

In our day to day life whether official, personal or social, we have to deal with complications. Some situations are easy to handle with but other are complex which snatch the peace of mind because our brain gets stuck on how best to handle such state of affair. This is where our Analytical Skills help us.

 The prime purpose for the Analysis of any given situation is to get to know the root cause(s) of the issue, to forecast the impact & to plan corrective/preventive actions strategy. So basically analytical skill is to visualize a given situation, task, project or issue from several angles in order to breakdown it into smaller steps.

Below are different situations where our analytical skills are required. I shall give advices in each category accordingly:

1) When Summarizing Large Amount of Data: In this situation, I highly recommend using Pivot Tables feature of MS Excel in order to generate reports. The Pivot Reports feature allows us playing with the data in several ways to generate multi dimensional reports. We can breakdown large amount of data in different sheets to apply Pivot Reports separately as well. Youtube is a very good source of videos for learning this skill. Pivot table can also generate reports for Trends & Forecast in two to three dimensions.

2) When Resolving Conflicts in Office: In this case, listen to all parties which are having difference of opinion. List down the positive & negative input factors & after-effects based on feedback from individuals. Make it in tabular format & review this with your manager to see which one is the best option to go for. Then call for a meeting to elaborate the overall picture based on your fair analysis & convince personnel for the option which is in the best interest of the company.

3) When Being Assigned a large project: in this case you need to make a high level agenda (High Level Project Deliverables) & then start working on WBS (Work Breakdown Structure) & then assign each task to relevant resource. While making WBS you can have a meeting with your Team Leads & other stake holders. You can consider Fishbone diagram to analyze the inputs of any task.

4) When Resolving a Technical issue: The advice here is to consult the product guide to see the possible root causes, consult the SME (Subject Matter Expert) for opinion or consult the Lesson Learnt Register. For all kind of issues resolutions, I always recommend two things. First is to take corrective action to fix the issue, Second to take Preventive Action (fix the root cause permanently) so that the issues does not keep on popping. Six Sigma's DMAIC is recommended way for analyzing & improving. You want to learn Six Sigma, get an introduction from Google.

5) When purchasing something: Let us take the example of mobile phone. When you want to purchase a new mobile you need to ask yourself: do I need touch screen, do I need wifi, do I really need to purchase new mobile, what is my budget? Do I need 5MP camera, do I need iphone or Android, and do I need 4 inch screen or less? What other specs do I need to consider. So basically you are analyzing your demands to come up with the right mobile which is to be purchased.

6) When handling family conflicts: Being a sensitive subject, this is something where you need much more than analytical skills; For each family member involved in the conflict, you have to have sense of feelings, emotions study, stress absorption power, age factor, relationship level & convincing power so in my opinion this is the most difficult part of practicing your analytical skills. You have to consistently guide everyone about 'forgive & forget' policy. You have to calmly listen to each party & take adequate time to analyze all aspects (as mentioned a couple of lines back) vigilantly before concluding something on the brawl.

Conclusion: Analytical skills can make your life easier in almost all aspects of decision making or problem solving; however, it's not only the matter of considering all the options & the inputs, its matter of considering the weight of each option as well. For example, for a given situation you have two options having equal number of advantages or disadvantages so in order to conclude in such situation you have to consider the weight of each option. While doing your analysis you might want to consider the difference between Urgent & Important things.

Develop & sharpen your analytical skills to take steps for reducing stress in your life consequently to ensure peace of mind. - FA

Analytical Skills Development

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

11 proven ways to gain unstoppable confidence

Those who know are ultimately much more confident in any arena than those shrouded in ignorance. Use your spare time to read up on the things that interest you, on the things that you are curious about, and build up a solid base of knowledge and critical thinking. The more you know, the more sure of yourself you will be in any situation.

Uncertainty is the biggest drain on your self-confidence. Succumbing to doubt ensures you will never believe in yourself. The more often you do something, the more certain you become. With certainty comes confidence.

Try to walk through your day with as easy and care-free of an attitude as you can muster, because someone who is it ease with him or herself is someone who is confident. Build unstoppable confidence by not getting hung up on the petty issues and minor irritations that help wear you down.

Take stock of yourself. Brainstorm for a bit and compose a list of your good qualities and bad, the things you excel at and the things you need to improve upon, and once you have a clear picture of yourself much of the uncertainty that breeds doubt will wash away.

Take the time to properly think through every problem, and the confidence in your skills will grow.

Try to be as complete and thorough at every task you attempt . Completing tasks builds confidence in your ability to always see projects through to their proper conclusion .

Once you have assessed yourself, make a list of goals you wish to accomplish, and get to work. You now know your true limits, so the only thing left to do is push beyond them and set your sights on new frontiers.

Don't close yourself off to friends, acquaintances and coworkers. The more you put yourself out there in business and social situations, the more quickly you will build confidence in your ability to navigate these sometimes tricky waters.

Dress well, groom yourself, compose your identity as a person who is well put together, and you will feel confident when meeting new people and doing new things.

While it is okay to take time to analyze and think situations through, the time comes when you must be decisive and act. Decisive people are confident; not confident people are decisive.

Know yourself fully, wash away your own doubts about yourself, your identity and your capabilities, and present every aspect of yourself in every situation and you will have no reason to doubt your confidence. Become your full, real self.

Friday, May 25, 2012

Seven Solid Steps to Thinking Big

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One of my old bosses had a funny habit. He would always walk into his office asking a secretary, “So what heroic exploit do I have planned for today?
At the time this question seemed a joke to me and I did not give it much thought. Only years later after I had changed several jobs, started my own websites and learned a thing or two about human psychology I started to see the real connection between Thinking Big and Accomplishing a Lot.
Oh, have I mentioned that this boss of mine was one of the most productive, creative, intelligent and,definitely,the strangest person I have ever worked with?
He passed away a few years ago, but every time I think of him I catch myself smiling.
Today I want to ask you a question – What heroic exploit have YOU planned for yourself?
Anything daring? Anything fascinating? Anything that will push you out of your comfort zone?
Then maybe it is time you took a few minutes to turn your mind loose and imagine how you can make this day more memorable, more exciting, and more gratifying.
It really is a pity to live in a Universe full of unlimited possibilities, infinite ideas and thousands of new life experiences and not plan something heroic.
So how about we make a tiny mental effort, set our fears, doubts and excuses aside and start thinking BIG.
Here are 7 Solid Steps that can help:

1. Remove physical boundaries.

Psychologists have recently discovered that the popular self-help phrase “the sky is your limit” is true on a lot more levels than we can imagine. It turns out that just being in a room with higher ceilings or, even better, walking outside, has a consistent impact on people’s thinking. This impact is directly transferred to mental processes. The higher the ceiling in the room is, the more effective we are at creating connections, recalling facts and thinking big.
Try it! Maybe all you need to do to improve your creativity is simply change room.

2. Write your plans on A3 paper or a white board.

This is another trick that helps to expand your thinking. Many creative people instinctively do it right. Some of them have wall-size boards where they brainstorm and write down their ideas. You can do it too, when writing down your plans or your goals. Instead of filling your agenda with a column of tasks, take an A4 or better A3 piece of paper and mind map your to-do list on it. You might be surprised how much easier it is to identify priorities and find the best order to do your tasks.

3. Connect with the right people.

People you spend time with, have the power to belittle your dreams or to open your horizons.To become a big thinker start connecting with extraordinary people, who will inspire you and frequently push you out of your comfort zone.
For example, if you need business advice, write to someone who you consider a business guru. If you are thinking about changing jobs – send your CV to the top-of-the-list companies. What is the worst thing that can happen?
I recently read about an experiment, where a company posted two separate ads in a newspaper for the same position and with the same skill description. The only difference was the salary. One ad offered almost twice the pay of the other one. Guess what happened? Ten times more candidates showed up for the lower-paid job!
Something to think about…

4. Pay attention to your words.

I believe it was Eleanor Roosevelt, who said “Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.”
It does not mean that in order to become a big thinker, you have to start any small talk by sharing your ideas. It simply suggests that the more your conversations evolve around gossip, corruption, cataclysms or any other topic that stirs negative emotions in you and the people you talk to, the less likely you will be enriched by the communication.

5. Look for the potential.

Train your mind to imagine the possibilities. Give yourself permission to dream big. Learn to see people not as they are, but as they can be!
This might not be something they teach us in college, but this is one of the most important life skills that we will ever need.

6. Practice adding value.

For many of us it may be challenging to think big when it comes to our personal career and plans for the future. However, when we switch our focus from ourselves and concentrate on creating value for others we suddenly find strength, creativity and vision that we never thought we had. As if the whole Universe is collaborating with us to help us achieve our goals.
Truly great thinkers always concentrate on adding value to the world or as Steve Jobs would have said it “putting a dent in the Universe”.You can do the same:
  • Practice adding value to things.
  • Practice adding value to people.
  • Practice adding value to yourself.
Think improvement in everything you do. Think high standards in everything you do!

7. Start Small.

Dreaming big is a great start. The challenge, however, is the transition from the big picture to daily actions. This is where most people get stuck. Every great venture starts out small. Some of the most lucrative companies in the world such as Apple, Mattel and Amazon started in a garage. Starbuck’s Coffee was founded with $18,900 by two high school teachers and a writer. AndMother Teresa began to fulfill her mission of serving the poor by taking a nursing course and teaching children of the slums how to read and write.
No matter how huge or overwhelming the goal may seem, it can be always broken down to simple and very do-able steps.
So what heroic exploit have you have planned for yourself today?
And what is the first step that you can take?

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Benefits of Being Polite

The art of conversation has almost died down. People just usually sit and chat in their office breaks about things that are not even worth thinking about. Lets face it; we all are going towards doom where each one of us is talking to pass/kill time. The art of using communication is no more existing. People are concerned about others influence in their lives and not about their influence in others life.
It is an unbelievable thing that an effective communication through polite words can have wonderful impact on you and others lives as well. You can win the hearts of many people, climb the corporate ladder, have promotions but not have wonderful relationship with people around you.
The path to a successful life comes thorough the stairs of politeness. An act of politeness can do wonders that no monetary thing can do. Let us go deep in the art of efficient speaking by these methods.
Talking about ideas and not people
Its truly said, great minds talk about ideas and small minds talk about people. Politeness is an attitude of life. Talking about ideas heightens your politeness towards innovations and stimulates your mind too. This is effective for the speaker and the listener both. To start talking about people you can breathe out all negative energies about anyone: latest crush, which dress she wears, which perfume she uses, her bad attitude. The idea is that everything you talk about people usually comes negative. This develops a feeling of self love and comparison at all means. You do not value your life as much as you do to others.

Using intellect instead of the tongue
Usually people chatter on at length not worrying about the impact it would have on others. Since people are so occupied in themselves theyd rather talk about themselves only. This instigates them to speak rubbish endlessly. Have you ever thought how much of an impact we can have on others by our words? By trying to use our brains before speaking, we will save others sentiments and preserve a healthy relationship between our near ones.
Avoiding gossip

The one who usually starts a gossip or backbiting about someone does not know that he is the one to  have the last laugh. People who start commenting and spreading rumors about others usually end up in a muck of politics and bickering about themselves from the other end. Such people should be avoided at arm's length. Even listening to gossip is as harmful since the listener had the power to listen to negative communication. This unhealthy gossiping could have been stopped if the listener would have ignored the speaker.
Exchange of compliments
We should not limit our compliment intake be restricted to our close relatives. People like our helpers such as servants, cleaners, house maids are those on whom we can count on. Speaking politely to them will ensure that your day is made. They are the ones who offer your services to make your life comfortable. So we should make endeavors to enrich their lives by complimenting and praising them.
Look for positive things in negative people
We all have negative and positive sides. Nobody on this earth has a squeaky clean nature. We all have flaws, however some people are observed negatively by their rude behavior and we become very judgmental about them putting them in the negative category. We should understand that people who are rude have their own weaknesses. They do not choose to be like that. Frustrations at work or domestic front make them act in this behavior. Such people should be offered more help than others comparatively. Talking politely with them will make a difference in their lives and yours too.
Feel positive about you all the time
Quite often we do not realize that we subconsciously become negative. Pent up emotions and unfulfilled desires make us behave rudely towards others and emit negative radiations from the body. Thus we tend to overreact and become rude and harsh to others in some or the other way. This might demolish the social circle that we have. So politeness in the hearts at all means will result in polite attitude.
Whatever is rested in your heart is bound to come out in the open some or the other day. Make sure  you have a prosperous life with a polite attitude and selfless love. This will make you immortal in the hearts of millions as people are going to remember for your polite words and not by your status.
A photographer once clicked a photograph of ex-president of India, Dr. Kalam with a shawl placed on  his shoulder. After the photo shoot was over, the photographer rudely took off the shawl and walked off. The President smiled. After being asked about his composed behaviouir, he politely answered that maybe the photographer needed the shawl more than he did, and continued his work.
People with big positions come and go but it is only their humble nature that draws millions of people towards them. Their polite words filled to the brim with modesty and love melt the hearts of even the rudest amongst the crowd. By talking politely to all we can make an impact on others lives.
Rules of Etiquette : Being Polite Being polite at school requires doing homework, being on time, being friendly and saying nice things about everyone.

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

The 12 Laws of Karma:

As you sow, so shall you reap.
This is also known as the Law of Cause and Effect.
Whatever we put out in the Universe
is what comes back to us.
If what we want is Happiness, Peace, Friendship, Love…
Then we should BE Happy, Peaceful, Loving, a Friend.

Life doesn’t just HAPPEN, it requires our participation.
We are one with the Universe both inside and out.
Whatever surrounds us gives us clues to our inner state.
BE and DO yourself…
what you what to have in your Life.

What you refuse to accept, will continue for you.
If what we see is an enemy, or someone with a character trait that we find to be negative,
then we ourselves are not focused on a higher level of existence.

Wherever you go, there you are.
For us to GROW in Spirit it is we who must change and not the people, places or things around us.
The only given we have in our lives is OURSELVES
and that is the only factor we have control over.
When we change who and what we are within our heart
our life changes too.

Whenever there is something wrong,
there is something wrong in me.
We mirror what surrounds us
and what surrounds us mirrors us
We must take responsibility what is in our life.

Even if something we do seems inconsequential,
it is very important that it gets done
as everything in the Universe is connected.
Each step leads to the next step and so forth and so on.
Someone must do the initial work to get a job done.
Neither the first step nor the last
are of greater significance
They were both needed to accomplish the task.
Past, Present, Future
They are all connected…

You can’t think of two things at the same time.
When our focus is on Spiritual Values it is impossible for us to have lower thoughts such as greed or anger.

If you believe something to be true,
then sometime in your life
you will be called upon to demonstrate that truth.
Here is where we put what we SAY
that we have learned

Looking back to examine what was,
prevents us from being totally in the HERE AND NOW.
Old thoughts, old patterns of behavior, old dreams…
Prevent us from having new ones.

History repeats itself until
we learn the lessons that we need
to change our path.

All Rewards require initial toil.
Rewards of lasting value
require patient and persistent toil.
True Joy follows doing what we’re suppose to be doing and waiting for the Reward to come in it’s on time.

You get back from something whatever
you’ve put into it
The Value of something is a direct result of
the energy and intent that is put into it.
Every personal contribution
is also a contribution to the Whole
Lack luster Contributions have no impact on the Whole
or work to diminish it.
Loving Contributions Lift Up and Inspire the Whole

Sunday, March 18, 2012

Three Words That make Relationships better

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There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships. 
Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words. 
When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new friendships, 
deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that have soured.

The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every relationship.

Let me help:
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. 
When they see a hurt they do what they can to heal it. 
Without being asked, they jump in and help out.

 I understand you:
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person 
accepts and understands them. 
Letting your spouse know - in so many little ways - that you understand them, 
is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship. 
And this can apply to any relationship.

 I respect you:
Respect is another way of showing love. 
Respect demonstrates that another person is a true equal. 
If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds 
and become closer friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

I miss you:
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely 
said to each other I miss you. This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted,
needed, desired and loved. 
Consider how important you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call 
from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say I miss you.

Maybe youre right:
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument. 
The implication when you say maybe youre right is the humility of admitting, 
maybe Im wrong. Lets face it. When you have an argument with someone, 
all you normally do is solidify the other persons point of view. 
They, or you, will not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously 
damaging the relationship between you. 
Saying maybe youre right can open the door to explore the subject more. 
You may then have the opportunity to express your view in a way that is 
understandable to the other person.

Please forgive me:
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes 
and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. 
A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, 
which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

I thank you:
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. 
People who enjoy the companionship of good, 
close friends are those who dont take daily courtesies for granted. 
They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. 
On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often 
do not have the attitude of gratitude.

Count on me:
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. 
Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship. 
It is the emotional glue that bonds people. 
Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady 
and true friends. 
When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating 
you can count on me.

Ill be there:
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, 
to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down 
some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase
Ill be there. 
Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. 
When we are truly present for other people, important things 
happen to them and us.

We are renewed in love and friendship. 
We are restored emotionally and spiritually. 
Being there is at the very core of civility.

Go for it:
We are all unique individuals. 
Dont try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. 
Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far out they seem to you. 
God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only.

Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. 
Tell them to go for it.

I love you:
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. 
Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person
deepest emotional needs. 
The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. 
Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear 
those three little words: I love you.
Love is a choice. You can love even when the feeling is gone.

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Top 10 Productivity Hacks

But whatever the reason, these Productivity Hacks will do the trick. Here they are, in reverse order.

#10: Take care of your Most Important Things first. Your Most Important Things for the day  the things you most need to accomplish that day  should take priority over everything else. However, we all know that fires come up throughout the day, interruptions through phone calls and email and people dropping by, new demands that will push the best-laid plans aside. If you put off your MITs until later in the day, you will end up not doing them much of the time.

# 9: Wake up early. Decide what youd like to accomplish each morning, and build your morning routine around that. Like to exercise? Put that in there. Healthy breakfast? Go for it. Check email? Fine. The mornings are a fresh start, peaceful and free of ringing phones and constant email notifications. If you get your Most Important Things done in the morning, the rest of the day is just gravy.

# 8: Simplify information streams, crank through blogs & email. Think about all the information you receive (email, blogs, newsletters, mailing lists, magazines, newspapers and more) and edit brutally. You will drastically reduce the time you spend reading. For everything else that begins to come in after your editing process, ask yourself if you really need to be getting that information regularly. Most of the time the answer is no. Now, after this process, you should be left with less to read. Heres the next step: crank through it all, really only reading the really interesting ones.

# 7: Declutter your workspace; work on one thing at a time. The decluttering your work space part of it is simply to remove all extra distractions, on your desk and on your computer. If youā™ve got a clean, simplified workspace, you can better focus on the task at hand.

# 6: Get to work early; work fewer hours. My best days come when I get into work early, and begin my work day in the quiet morning hours, before the phones start ringing and the din of the office begins it crescendo to chaos. It is so peaceful, and I can work without interruption or losing focus. I often find that I get my MITs done before anyone comes in, and then the rest of the day is dealing with whatever comes up (or even better: getting ahead for the next day).

# 5: Avoid meetings; when you must meet, make it effective. I find it best to say no to meetings up front. I just say, Sorry, I cant make it. Im tied up with a project right now. And thats always true. Ive always got projects Im working on that are more important than a meeting.

# 4: Avoid unnecessary work. If we just do any work that comes our way, we can be cranking out the tasks, but not be productive at all. Youre only productive if you are doing work that moves you towards a goal. Eliminate non-essential tasks from your to-do lists, and start to say no to new requests that are non-essential.

# 3: Do the tough tasks first. You know what those tasks are. What have you been putting off that you know you need to do? Sometimes when you put things off, they end up being things you donā™t really need to do. But sometimes they are things you just gotta do. Those are your tough tasks.

# 2: Work off-line as much as possible. To increase your productivity, disconnect your Internet connection. Have scheduled times when you re going to check your email, and only let yourself check your blogs or surf the web when you ve gotten a certain amount done. When you do go online, do it on a timer. When the timer goes off, unplug again until the next scheduled time.

# 1: Do something youre passionate about. This might not seem like the normal productivity tip, but give it a thought: if you really want to do something, you ll work like hell to get it done. You ll work extra hard, you ll put in even more hours, and you re less likely to procrastinate. Its for work that you dont really care about that you procrastinate. Read the full post for tips on how to find your dream job and do work you truly care about.

10 Self Improvement Activities

These self improvement activities will help you become more productive, get into the positive state of mind and achieve better quality of life.
In this article you will also find out how to use your energy effectively, what is the quickest way to achieve personal growth and how to excel in every activity.
1st Self Improvement Activity: Use your energy on important things
If you want to succeed in life, you should not waste your energy on activities that do not bring any benefits.
Such useless activities include surfing the Internet without any purpose, watching TV, worrying and wasting money.
When you are involved in such activities, you have no or little energy left for activities that can create a better future. It is worth prioritising and accomplishing important tasks first, and then if you still have enough energy, you may decide to do the unimportant.
2nd Self Improvement Activity: Focus on one task at a time
If you want to get perfect results, you should only concentrate on one activity. This way all your energy will go into it and you will accomplish it perfectly.
If you waste your energy on several things at the same time, you will get average results because you will divide your energy between the activities.
3rd Self Improvement Activity: Control your thinking
To avoid chaos in your mind resulting in chaos in the outside world, you should try to observe your thoughts. Once you start doing that, you will notice how many negative thoughts you get daily.
By observing negative thinking you will be able to emotionally disengage from it. As a result, negative thinking will affect you less and you will notice that your days are getting more peaceful and positive.
4th Self Improvement Activity: Get organised
When you live in an organised manner, you do not suffer from stress and your life is peaceful and balanced.
To start living this way, you should start planning your day in advance. This will eliminate any stress caused by being late to a meeting or forgetting to complete some task.
You should also live in tidiness because by keeping your home clean you also keep your mental state clear and peaceful. Such mental state will benefit you in many ways, including improved memory and less negativity.
5th Self Improvement Activity: Live in the present

Although this self improvement activity may seem strange to you, it is a very important activity that many ignore. The majority of people do not live in the present. They either dwell on their past or daydream about the future. They seem to forget the most important time of all - the present.
You should enjoy every present moment because your current state of mind always manifests in the outside world, creating your future accordingly.
Therefore if your main mood is very positive, you will experience only happy days. However, if you dwell on negative thoughts, you are sure to encounter many obstacles and misfortunes in the present and days to come.
6th Self Improvement Activity: Complete each task in a perfect manner
Whenever you are working on some project, try to accomplish it in the best way possible. Always ask yourself 'Is this project turned out as perfect as it could possibly be?' If the answer is no, try to correct or add something to it until there is nothing that you can improve.
This way you will make sure that each single task you accomplish is done in an excellent manner. By doing this you will create successful future because you cannot possibly fail if you only get perfect results.
Also, when you entirely focus on one task excluding everything else, you will notice that you start enjoying the task. If you concentrate on the task but still do not enjoy it, that means that you probably see the task as a means to an end rather than the process.
You should start focusing on the process itself to find enjoyment in the task. Such enjoyment will fuel motivation and you will accomplish everything quicker and better.
If you enjoy your work, you will put only positive energy into it. As a result, your completed tasks will bring you success.
7th Self Improvement Activity: Challenge yourself
Nothing develops you more than challenges. Challenges force you to shift your comfort zone, experience new situations and make you grow. Without challenges life would be very boring and depressing.
Challenges are necessary for every human being who is seeking quality life. Only through trial and error you realise who you really are, which activities you like and what preferences you have.
You can easily measure the success of a person by the amount of challenges s/he had.
8th Self Improvement Activity: Read personal development books
There is nothing more important than searching information about self improvement. Without reading any self improvement books or articles you cannot improve yourself.
9th Self Improvement Activity: Socialize only with positive people
Positive people can inspire, empower and make you happy. It is so much worth to be at least once in a while with positive people rather than constantly spend time with negative friends or relatives.
If you spend your days with, for example, lazy people, you may notice that you are becoming lazy.
If all your friends' main qualities are negative, try to avoid all of them. This way you will not be affected in a negative way and after some time will start attracting positive people.
10th Self Improvement Activity: Exercise

Daily exercise develops determination, focus and patience. It improves your health and strengthens your body. It makes you more active, positive and invincible.
People who exercise every day are always perceived as strong-willed and disciplined.
These personal improvement activities are sure to put you on the track to success. I hope that you will apply the steps in this article and, as a result, will greatly improve the quality of your life.